Do you over-aside?

I’ve noticed recently a tendency in myself and others to add layer upon layer of explanation when we are talking. Once I saw it, I realised how counter-productive it is.

We think we are helping, but we’re not. Piling up information faster than the recipient can process it.

I park my car a few hundred meters from where I work. I enjoy the walk in the morning, and the time to slow down on the way home.

Succint and tells you all that you need to know about where I park.

I park my car around the corner from work because there is free parking. If I can’t get a park I park in the multi-storey car park where I have to pay. Where I previously worked there were people who paid for parking each day just to be a little closer. That’s something like $1,250 a year and I’ve got better things to spend my money on. Though sometimes when I parked there I’d forget and walk back to where I normally parked. Once I even did it in the rain. Anyway, I park in, what’s the name of the street?. I can never remember.

Adding aside, after aside, only confuses the key message. Keep an eye out for it in your communication and assess its effects on those around you – and you when you’re the recipient.

I’m no good at computers…

…is the 21st Century evolution of, “I’m no good at maths.”

It is a declaration that one can’t learn and so is a prime example of an Enemy of Learning.

It is said in response to a fear the person with you is judging you for not having the same knowledge they have. An Assessment that can’t be grounded.

It holds you back from asking for assistance.

The phrase holds you back for no good reason. Let it go.